Words: Lauren Carbran
Did you know that one of the reasons we have a sense of smell is to find a partner? Mind-blowing. Here’s why fragrances are so important when it comes to dating…
How our sense of smell works
Smelling is vital – it can help us sense danger, find food, affect our emotions and meet our perfect partner. ‘Humans are among the only animals that kiss, and it’s the most intensive form of smelling in the animal kingdom,’ says fragrance expert Roja Dove. ‘You may think someone is attractive, but if you go to kiss them and they don’t smell right, you’ll push away. We don’t smell with our nose, we smell with the most primitive part of our brain, where all our emotions are processed.’
Why smell so important in a relationship
You may not know it or have thought about it, but you’re subconsciously attracted to the smell of your partner. ‘Scent is a massive part of the start of a relationship,’ says Roja. ‘When you’re first dating someone and you’re not with them, you’ll smell their imprint on you – for instance, when your hand passes by your face. Sadly, familiarity makes that imprint something you no longer smell. There’s something exciting and sexy about that imprint.’
Where fragrance comes in
‘Perfume is our secret accomplice because you’re giving off a signal that nobody can see,’ says Roja. ‘It creeps into your subconscious, whether you like it or not, and it hooks people in.’ Score!
The ingredients to look out for
‘If you want to communicate that you have a very clean home, opt for fresh, citrus scents,’ says Roja. ‘Or if you want to show that you’re accommodating and disciplined, try leathery accords, mosses and woods. Perhaps you want to seduce your date slowly? Go for a scent with vanilla.’
The fragrances that make you smell attractive
This is a little subjective – people have different tastes and senses of smell. So what’s the answer to smelling sexy to your date? ‘You have to work out what it is that suits you first,’ say Roja. ‘You might have a male partner who thinks an ultra-masculine smell is the thing, but their date doesn’t feel compelled by that. So if the scent you wear is an expression of who you are and the person finds you attractive physically and intellectually, then they have to find your scent attractive. Authenticity is the sexiest scent of all.’ Top tip: don’t just choose a scent because it’s deemed the sexiest one on the block – opt for one you’re naturally drawn to.